The "Sorry, But No" Diet
Last week I had the opportunity to talk to a group of women about putting themselves first, about being the leading lady in their life.
It was so much fun and I left the talk touched by their experience, service and heart.
I also left more convinced than ever that we - WOMEN - achieve a lot, but we often do so at our own expense.
We care for our families. Volunteer at school. Earn a living. Care for aging parents. Decorate. Plan. Shop. We do all the things.
And at the end of the day, there’s not much time left for our own care.
I shared with them a number of “Things I Know” from my book, Hello Lovely. But, the lesson that is met with the most resistance is when I tell them they need to say “no” more often.
They know they’re taking on too much. They can feel the toll it’s taking on their bodies and spirit and yet, they’ve got a hundred reasons why “no” isn’t an option.
Who else will do it?
I don’t want to let them down?
They’ll send me nasty emails if I don’t? (this actually happened to one of the ladies!)
People are expecting it.
Sound familiar? Sure did to me, but you know what? I say no anyway. For real, about a year ago I said “no” A LOT because I knew my business needed me more engaged. Recently, I’ve noticed that my schedule is again getting filled with other people’s priorities and I need to tighten my belt a little - go on a “sorry, but no” diet.
So, gorgeous, on this glorious Sunday I want to encourage you to say “no” to the stuff you don’t want to do. To the things that bring you down. To the causes you love, but just don’t have time for (now). To the social events that leave you feeling drained. To the dust that will still be there next week.
There are a number of ways to say “no” with compassion and kindness and if you want help, reply to this email, tell me your tale and I’ll hit you back with a few snazzy one-liners. And, who knows, your “no” might open up an opportunity for someone else who would love to do what you’ve come to loathe. Or not. Either way, it’s your life, sister, and if you don’t take control of your time and use it to nurture yourself, no one else is going to do it for you.
Sending you love, light and a whole lot of “no,”
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