Posted on September 05 2018
Posted on January 21 2018
On Friday, my new studio, GLOW Studio by Tanya Wheeless, officially opened for business. I kicked things off with a vision boarding workshop. It was the cat’s meow.
I love making vision boards because visualizing the things we want is a powerful step in making them a reality. Plus, the process is super-fun. I talked about vision boards a little back in December and several of you wanted more detail. Ask and you shall receive!
Here’s my basic process for creating a beautiful and powerful vision board that you’ll want to look at everyday.
This is a fun project to do with your friends, daughter or all by yourself on a quiet afternoon. If you make a board and want to share it, you can post on our Facebook page or just hit reply and email me a picture. I’d love to see what you come up with!
Posted on October 29 2017
My son just went to his first school dance last Friday. How did this happen? Yesterday he was playing with Thomas the Tank Engine and now he’s putting product in his hair?!
It’s a reminder that the days are long, but the years are short.
So, today, it’s phone off. Computer closed. Family time.
Maybe we’ll jump on the trampoline or go for ice cream. Whatever it is, I hope the day really IS long because this mama is feeling her baby getting all growed up.
Wishing you a beautiful Sunday with your babies, however old they may be.
Posted on October 22 2017
Fall, glorious fall! I love everything about the fall, especially that it means that the Arizona summer is over. Holla!
It also means that the “holidays” are coming. I’m sure I’ll have much more to say about this later, but no time like the present to start managing our energy.
I looked up the definition of “holiday” and here’s the first one that appeared: “a day of festivity or recreation when no work is done.” Ha! I’m still laughing. No work is done?!
Let’s keep it real cuz we’re all friends here: the holidays are the BUSIEST time of the year. That turkey ain’t going to cook itself. There aren’t elves wrapping those presents.
So, before the crazy starts let’s make a pact.
Let’s all agree that we deserve a rest too.
Let’s all acknowledge that these are our holidays (days without work) too.
Let’s make a deal that we will do as much holiday prep as is joyful, but no more!
Hire some elves. Order your pies. Let the kids decorate kid-style (they’ll love it). Make the meal a pot luck. Stop for a peppermint hot chocolate while you shop. Schedule a massage for December NOW. Gather the gals, drink wine, watch Love Actually, and wrap together. OD on the Hallmark Channel. Keep cider on the stove.
Do whatever it takes for your holiday season to feel festive and fun. Set the intention now and let that energy flow the entire holiday season.
Posted on October 15 2017
I want every women, every person, to know their own value because there was a time when I didn’t know my own. Who am I kidding, there were entire decades when I didn’t know my own value.
We look into the eyes of a child and see endless goodness, possibility and beauty.
We were that child.
But, at some point the world takes over and we start doubting our own greatness. We have experiences that we turn into stories that we turn into beliefs about who we are and we let those tainted beliefs run our life.
I’m ugly. I’m worthless. I’m unloveable. I’m fat. I’m heartless.
While it’s painful to admit, I have believed every one of these things about myself, and more. I have cried myself to sleep. I have felt angry. I have felt abandoned by people I loved. I have felt utterly invisible and alone.
My journey to happiness, peace and freedom started when I began to question these beliefs. The moment I allowed myself the grace to consider that maybe, just maybe, I wasn’t so bad after all, my life began to change. It was when I allowed the veil of misapprehension to lift that I began the long journey back home to that childlike place of goodness, possibility and beauty.
The same is true for you. I want you to know that you matter. That not only are you loveable, but you ARE love. You are beautiful. You are light. And, you are not alone.
This song by India Arie says it better than I ever could.
If you know someone who doesn’t know her own beauty and worth, forward this email to her and let her know she’s not alone. Tell her how amazing she is as you remember your own gloriousness.
I bow to your greatness.
Posted on October 08 2017
Last week I had the opportunity to talk to a group of women about putting themselves first, about being the leading lady in their life.
It was so much fun and I left the talk touched by their experience, service and heart.
I also left more convinced than ever that we - WOMEN - achieve a lot, but we often do so at our own expense.
We care for our families. Volunteer at school. Earn a living. Care for aging parents. Decorate. Plan. Shop. We do all the things.
And at the end of the day, there’s not much time left for our own care.
I shared with them a number of “Things I Know” from my book, Hello Lovely. But, the lesson that is met with the most resistance is when I tell them they need to say “no” more often.
They know they’re taking on too much. They can feel the toll it’s taking on their bodies and spirit and yet, they’ve got a hundred reasons why “no” isn’t an option.
Who else will do it?
I don’t want to let them down?
They’ll send me nasty emails if I don’t? (this actually happened to one of the ladies!)
People are expecting it.
Sound familiar? Sure did to me, but you know what? I say no anyway. For real, about a year ago I said “no” A LOT because I knew my business needed me more engaged. Recently, I’ve noticed that my schedule is again getting filled with other people’s priorities and I need to tighten my belt a little - go on a “sorry, but no” diet.
So, gorgeous, on this glorious Sunday I want to encourage you to say “no” to the stuff you don’t want to do. To the things that bring you down. To the causes you love, but just don’t have time for (now). To the social events that leave you feeling drained. To the dust that will still be there next week.
There are a number of ways to say “no” with compassion and kindness and if you want help, reply to this email, tell me your tale and I’ll hit you back with a few snazzy one-liners. And, who knows, your “no” might open up an opportunity for someone else who would love to do what you’ve come to loathe. Or not. Either way, it’s your life, sister, and if you don’t take control of your time and use it to nurture yourself, no one else is going to do it for you.
Sending you love, light and a whole lot of “no,”
Posted on October 01 2017
I love nature. On the real, it absolutely feeds my soul. Sometimes, after a busy week, like the one I just had, I like to look back at pictures from my travels to recapture a moment in a far off place.
A single photo transports me back to the spot and I can feel the air and smell the Earth.
I was doing just that when I came across this video from our trip to Alaska this summer. The ultimate wilderness!
My brilliant husband caught a MAJOR calving event on video. It may not look like much, but keep in mind that the glacier you’re looking at is over a mile wide and 200 or 300 feet tall. Our timing was impeccable and the view, magnificent.
It’s just the kind of awesome that makes my soul say, “Ahhhhh.”
P.S. The video is under two minutes and don’t forget to turn the sound up.
Posted on September 24 2017
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By Amanda Lovelace
Posted on September 17 2017
Today, if all goes well, I will officially become a certified yoga instructor. Yay-hoo!!!
I decided to get certified to improve my own practice. I wanted my poses, or asanas, to be better. I wanted my heels to touch the ground when I did down dog. That’s what I thought yoga was about - the poses.
I’ve learned so much during the last six months, but the most important lesson has been that yoga is about so much more than form.
Yoga is about truth.
Yoga is about love.
Yoga is about unity.
Yoga is about clarity.
Yoga is about breath.
Yoga is about self-love.
Yoga is about surrender.
Yoga is about looking inward.
Yoga is about staying present.
So, yes, I have improved my down dog, but I also feel like I’ve gotten an invaluable education in living a balanced, peaceful, joy-filled life.
If you desire the same, reread the list above and ask yourself, which of these is missing in your life. Surrender? Love? Truth? Whatever it is, decide to figure out how to get more of it.
Need help? Hit reply and send me your question. I’d love to serve you if I can.
Posted on September 10 2017
I have a friend who was born with one arm incomplete. As a child his parents did everything for him. They didn’t bother teaching him to tie his shoes, because, well, his arm. They just tied his shoes for him.
Eventually, it was time for my friend to start school. He was sitting in a circle with his little classmates and the teacher noticed that his shoe was untied. She asked him to tie it. He replied that he couldn’t, his arm didn’t work right.
Sitting next to him was a little boy who hadn’t yet learned “can’t.” His world was still filled with endless possibility.
He turned to my friend and said, “Sure you can. Here, watch.”
The little boy proceeded to tie his own shoe using one of his hands and the first of the other, somewhat approximating my friend’s situation.
He turned to my friend and said, “Ok, your turn.”
My friend struggled a bit, but did what the boy had showed him. And, with effort, he tied his own shoe. He was a shoe tier!
He was always able, but because he believed he couldn’t do it, he never tried. And his parents with their good intentions and a desire to “help” kept him believing that story.
Today, consider whether there’s something you believe you could never do then go out and give it the old college try. You just might surprise yourself.
Here’s to endless possibility,
Posted on September 03 2017
I’ve lived life with a closed heart. I’ve lived life with an open heart. What I know now, is that I was only really living with the open heart.
Perhaps for you, like me, life taught you early on that open-hearted living was dangerous.
It’s working up the courage to tell a boy you he is cute only to have him tell you he just likes you as a friend.
It’s believing that this time he really quit drinking only to have him return to his favorite past time.
It’s saying “I love you” only to be greeted with silence.
It’s being so happy to get invited to the party only to find out that you’re the entertainment.
Living with a hopeful, vulnerable, soft, generous heart can be heartbreaking. So heartbreaking, in fact, that it feels safer to just put up a “closed” sign, lock the door, pull down the metal gate and walk away.
But, when you close your heart off to the bad, you close it off to the good as well.
Can you imagine your life without the bright moments? If you, like me, have lived with a closed heart, can you imagine how much brighter they might have been if the metal gate wasn’t down?
Living with an open heart isn’t easy, but it is the only way to really live. I want to encourage you to embrace the mosaic of heartbreak and joy as simply - life - your personal masterpiece. I have and my life is happier as a result. I still get the wind knocked out of me, but the glories more than make up for it.
My Sunday wish for you: May your heart be open. May the world be kind. May your sorrows be few. And, may you live in bright, golden light.
Posted on August 20 2017
Tomorrow is the Great American Eclipse of 2017. A magical moment (about two and a half minutes to be more precise) when the day will turn to night and a magical glow will spread across the sky.
Right now Steve, Jake, and I are making our way to Nashville so that we’ll be in the path of the total eclipse. The idea came to us about a month ago over fondue and we thought, what the heck, this is a once in a lifetime opportunity so close to home, we should go check it out.
Turns out that millions of people had the same idea, only they planned for this months ago. Doh! Oh well, I made it happen and here we are. Waiting for our flight with eclipse glasses in hand (yeah, that’s a thing).
Aside from the natural spectacle, I’m also captivated by the energetic and astrological possibilities of the full moon eclipse. It’s the perfect time to say goodbye to things that aren’t working in our lives and create space for new beginnings.
Whether you believe in astrology, or not, reflecting on what is no longer serving your highest purpose is critical to living a balanced, happy, life of ease. We tend to hold on to so many things, people, and ideas because we’ve always had them or the parting with them seems too much to handle. But, handle it we must if want to feel liberated and empowered to live the most kick-ass life possible.
I’ll be making time to meditate on this later today. Maybe you’d like to do the same?
Sending the sun, moon, and stars your way.
Posted on August 06 2017
It’s the last Sunday-funday before my son starts school and I have mixed emotions.
On one hand, I’m ready to return to a routine that doesn’t involve me monitoring screen time or explaining why we can’t eat out for EVERY meal. Seriously.
On the other hand, this has been Jake’s most unstructured summer and I liked it. The whole house got into the late night, late morning groove. We eased into the day and spent time just talking while tossing a ball around the trampoline. I’ll miss that.
But endings are also beginnings.
For those of us with kids, the new school year is really more significant than the new year because it’s a chance to reset the way we do life as a family.
So, whether you have children or not, whether you’re counting the days until school starts or dreading that day, I wanted to share some of my personal mantras for living 2017/2018 in a way that feels good to me.
Have a mantra you want to share? I’d love to hear it.
Wishing you all a happy new (school) year.
Posted on July 30 2017
My soul was pierced by a line of poetry in the collection by Amanda Lovelace, “the princess saves herself in this one.”
“- silence has always been my loudest scream.”
Her words felt like a punch in the gut because they rang so true for me. How many times have I bitten my tongue or swallowed the words because I was afraid.
Afraid I would sound stupid.
Afraid they wouldn’t like me.
Afraid they’d be mad.
Or, worse, afraid they wouldn’t care.
The thing about silence is those words never go away. The pain, the scream of their silence, stays with us like a toxin in our blood. At first there’s no apparent effect, but over time, as the toxicity increases, it can be lethal to our sprit.
Our souls are yearning to be heard.
So speak your words, share your truth, choose not to poison yourself with silence. Share with someone you trust. Stand in your power when the message is difficult. Or, simply write in a journal that only you will read.
But speak, dear one, and let the screaming subside
Posted on July 23 2017
This week I'm going to let one of my teachers drop some soul on you. This is a quote by Marianne Williamson from her book, A Return to Love.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Even if you've heard this quote before, read it again. And then one more time.
Imagine how the world might be different if everyone felt empowered. What injustice could we avoid?
What if you walked through each moment knowing that you are enough. What violence might we spare ourselves?
What if we all lived each day to serve our highest purpose? Can you imagine the problems we could solve?
What if we allowed ourselves to shine and resisted the temptation to judge and tear down those we fear are outshining us? Who might feel more loved and less bullied?
Your power is great. You are enough. And baby, you were born to shine.
Sending you much love this summer Sunday.
Posted on July 09 2017
It’s Sunday, darling, and today I want you to practice self-care. Ok, you’re thinking, but what exactly is that and how do I do it? So glad you asked!
Self-care can be confusing. Honestly, I hadn’t even heard the term ten years ago. Maybe it was there, but not in my circles. Today though, you’ll be hard pressed to find a blog on women’s health or sanity doesn’t extol the virtues of self-care.
So what is it? Simply put, it is maintenance of the self. Not very inspiring though, is it?
I like this better: self-care is giving myself - my mind, my body and my soul - what they need to move through the world with joy and grace.
Yes, now we’re talking! It’s not just about keeping your engine running (although that’s super important), it’s about keeping your engine tuned and ready for the kind of driving YOU want to do.
For example, I have no interest in competing in an Ironman competition, so my self-care doesn’t require hours of training or a highly specialized diet. But, if that’s your jam then that’s exactly the care you need to move through YOUR world with joy and grace.
Here’s another one. I am highly interested in living in a harmonious home free of angst and tension. As a result, my self-care includes things like getting in a walk or yoga (to keep myself centered) and forgiving people who let me down. If I don’t do those two things, I’m a wound up stress ball with a shitty attitude. Are these the ingredients of harmony? I think not.
One more. You love your family to pieces and caring for them is a source of deep joy for you. Awesome, then that means getting plenty of sleep, recharging your batteries and staying healthy are ways that you can care for yourself. So often we put ourselves last, but when we do that, we get run down and sick. When that happens we’re no good to our people.
So get out there, girl, and take care of yo’self . Remember, everyone’s list of regular maintenance looks a little different because how we want to feel and what we hope to accomplish is a personal matter.
Do self-care your way and do it today. Need inspiration on how to do it, well, here are 35 ideas to inspire you.
Have your own self-care regimen? Tell me about it. Just hit reply.
Here’s to a beautiful day.
Posted on July 07 2017
It’s Sunday and I’ve got all the Sunday feels.
A hallmark of my Sunday morning routine is music. I turn on Pandora to nourish my spirit as I patter around, barefoot, making myself coffee and rubbing my babies’ bellies (fur babies I should say).
Great music sets the tone for my entire day.
Today, I want to inject some soul into your Sunday by sharing one of my favorite mood songs. It’s the perfect answer to everything from a hectic day to a lazy Sunday.
Try this: Sit in a quiet place, close your eyes, breathe and play the song letting each word wash over you. Soul renewed!
I hope you like it.
Hey gorgeous! I’m so glad you stopped by. Take a moment to soak up the goodness we’ve gathered. It’s all here to help you live the life of your dreams.