When you open the door to your spice cabinet, what do you see? Labels. You want to know what you're going to get when you open up the jars, so in this situation, labels are a good thing.
But guess what? You're way more dynamic than a spice cabinet, so what's up with all the labels you're attaching to yourself?
Mom. Wife. Lazy. Energetic. Free-spirited. Underachiever.
When you stick these titles on yourself, people think they know what they're going to get when they talk with you. But a lot of the time, that's not the case.
Posted on October 07 2018
When you open the door to your spice cabinet, what do you see? Labels. You want to know what you're going to get when you open up the jars, so in this situation, labels are a good thing.
Posted on September 30 2018
Posted on September 05 2018
Posted on October 29 2017
My son just went to his first school dance last Friday. How did this happen? Yesterday he was playing with Thomas the Tank Engine and now he’s putting product in his hair?!
It’s a reminder that the days are long, but the years are short.
So, today, it’s phone off. Computer closed. Family time.
Maybe we’ll jump on the trampoline or go for ice cream. Whatever it is, I hope the day really IS long because this mama is feeling her baby getting all growed up.
Wishing you a beautiful Sunday with your babies, however old they may be.
Posted on October 25 2017
We identified G for “Gratitude”. We have worked through L with “Let It Go”. We’ve learned to accept things for how they are through "O" with "Own it." Now, for our final and most important component, W. Do everything "With love."
Do everything with love. Be loving to every other person, most importantly, love yourself. Now, something I talk about in the workbooks is that for me, for a long time, love was a loaded word. Because I had a complicated relationship, where we loved each other but it didn’t feel quite right.
I've had complicated romantic relationships over the years, where we would say, "I love you," but we weren’t really living love. The word “love” can get a lot of people wound up. If you are one of those people, anytime you hear “love” from me or anyone else, just substitute in the word, "kind." Be kind to others, be kind to yourself, live with kindness in your heart.
Love is compassion. We don’t have to understand why people do things, we don’t have to approve of the way people live their life, but we can have compassion when they're in pain. We can have compassion when they're sick. There's nothing that stops us from doing that.
Then, there’s empathy. We can’t always have empathy because we haven’t always gone through what other people have. But a lot of times we can remember. I remember what it was like to be that young girl in a corporate office and doing something really boneheaded. You know what? I'm going to give her a break because I remember how hard that was trying to find my way in the world. Empathy, we can give that.
When you think to yourself, what is the most loving, or what is the most kind, thing I can do at this moment? It will always lead you to the right action as long as you keep yourself in the equation. Loving is not giving, giving, giving to others at the total expense of yourself all time. It’s just not.
One of the things that I talk about a lot when I talk to groups about self-care is, “Look, If you are run down, beat down, tired, and sick, you are absolutely no good to the people you love.” What is the most loving thing that you can do for others? It’s loving yourself and taking care of yourself.
Put your mind, your body, and your spiritual well-being first so that you can serve others the way you want to. So that you can love them the way that feels good to you.
Posted on October 15 2017
I want every women, every person, to know their own value because there was a time when I didn’t know my own. Who am I kidding, there were entire decades when I didn’t know my own value.
We look into the eyes of a child and see endless goodness, possibility and beauty.
We were that child.
But, at some point the world takes over and we start doubting our own greatness. We have experiences that we turn into stories that we turn into beliefs about who we are and we let those tainted beliefs run our life.
I’m ugly. I’m worthless. I’m unloveable. I’m fat. I’m heartless.
While it’s painful to admit, I have believed every one of these things about myself, and more. I have cried myself to sleep. I have felt angry. I have felt abandoned by people I loved. I have felt utterly invisible and alone.
My journey to happiness, peace and freedom started when I began to question these beliefs. The moment I allowed myself the grace to consider that maybe, just maybe, I wasn’t so bad after all, my life began to change. It was when I allowed the veil of misapprehension to lift that I began the long journey back home to that childlike place of goodness, possibility and beauty.
The same is true for you. I want you to know that you matter. That not only are you loveable, but you ARE love. You are beautiful. You are light. And, you are not alone.
This song by India Arie says it better than I ever could.
If you know someone who doesn’t know her own beauty and worth, forward this email to her and let her know she’s not alone. Tell her how amazing she is as you remember your own gloriousness.
I bow to your greatness.
Posted on August 31 2017
I’m about to spill a secret; the recipe to the Happy Grace “secret sauce.”
If you’re familiar with our workbooks, you know we believe it takes 90 days, minimum, to create a positive new habit and make it stick. That’s why we created a collection of 90-day workbooks. Each one is designed to help you reflect on what you’d like to change, tweak, or upgrade in your life—and really make it happen.
I spent two years crafting and perfecting a process that would truly help all the busy working ladies, the yogis in the suburbs, the carpoolers and errand runners, and the managers, VPs, and CEOs feel confident, comfortable in their skin, passionate, alive, and happy. And so, the GLOW Method was born.
The GLOW Method is what I have used to create every one of the Soulful workbooks. I took a deep look at my own life, tested it against the work I did with my private coaching clients, and said, "Okay. Now which of these things do I really see have an impact? What actually contributes to creating positive change and is more than just a theory?”
I distilled all of that down and came up with a catchy acronym, because I don’t know about you, but I have a hard time remembering what I ate for dinner last night. Hello, 40. The acronym for the secret sauce behind Happy Grace is to GLOW. Keep an eye on our blog - over the next four weeks I will be breaking down each step of the method into bite sized pieces and giving tips on how to apply each to your daily life.
Posted on December 01 2016
Self-love is so important.
Self-love is more than self-care. It goes beyond nourishing your body, getting enough sleep and all that jazz.
Do you love yourself as hard as you love others? Do you take care of yourself because YOU are the love of your life, or because you feel like you have to? Worse, does your own self-care take the back seat to others?
Spoiler alert: if it’s the latter, you might need to spend some time nourishing the most important relationship you will ever have – the one you have with yourself!
Need a little inspiration? I’ve collected some of my fave self-love pins to help you get there. Even if you’re a self-love pro, you can always use a reminder every now and then.
To Do: What do I need to feel happy and successful in the next 24 hours? Write this question at the top of your agenda each day.
To Do: Get real about a priority shift. Are any of your relationships draining you right now? Give yourself permission to take a little break.
To Do: Use this pin as a checklist. Done and done!
To Do: Make everyday self-love Thanksgiving. Make a mental checklist of everything that’s going right to help you find peace whenever you feel stressed.
Like what you see here? We have an entire Pinterest profile with boards to tickle any of your fancies – whether it’s food or interior design.
Here’s to spreading the love!
Posted on October 27 2016
Here’s the challenge: finding calm in chaos.
How many times have you found yourself in a CRAZY hectic situation, only to find yourself overreacting or completely shutting down?
We’ve all been there. We’ve all felt burnt out, stressed out and bummed out after handling an overwhelming situation unsuccessfully.
If this is something you find yourself struggling with on a consistent basis, consider this. What if you had a plan for any time you felt that ball of stress growing in your chest?
It’s kind of like the “count to ten” rule you employ every time you feel like you’re going to blow up at one of your peeps. Except more important.
As a modern chick, you know how important it is to keep your cool, whether you're chauffeuring the kids around to a million activities, or putting the finishing touches on a big presentation at work.
I found a super helpful article with proven tips to help build calming habits. Because, let’s face it, chaos is a part of life. The only thing you can control is how you respond to it.
(To all my happy yogis out there, I have a feeling you’ll love this the most.)
Take in these three quick tips to help you feel a sense of calm right now.
- Just breathe. In through the nose for four seconds, and then out for another four. Take a step back and practice.
- Get grounded. Think about your feet. Be aware of the literal things that are anchoring you to the world. You’ll feel much more centered.
- Find your mantra. Keep it to one word. If you’re feeling stressed, take a deep breath and exhale, saying your mantra. Pick something calming like “happy” or “freedom”.
Feeling better already? I knew you would.
Posted on October 12 2016
By the time you’re a certain age (hello thirty, flirty and thriving!) you should have certain habits in the bag.
I am, of course, talking about your beauty routine.
Gone are the days when you’d lazily hit the hay without washing your face. You know better than that, girl!
When it comes to your everyday beauty routine, you’ve learned more than that over the years.
I came across an article from Glamour that addresses this exact subject. It’s about beauty truths every modern chick should know by now… and there’s 30 of them.
I even pulled some of my favorites to share with you now. Let’s dive in, shall we?
Get those zzz’s
Can we say this enough? A good night’s sleep is CRUCIAL to making sure your skin shines with all its might. According to Glamour, it’s where all the beauty happens.
And, by the time you hit the big 3-0, you should be pulling regular all-nighters. Who’s got time for that when you’re busy conquering the world?
Beat The Heat
Number one on your beauty buy list? Heat protector spray! You shouldn’t be blow drying, straightening or curling your hair without it. It’s what grown ups do.
You can splurge on salon-quality, or pick up a bottle at the drugstore for under $10. Whatever you decide, pick one and start spraying!
Red Lips For The Win
You need a go-to red lipstick by the time you’re 30. By now, you should know what shade works best with your beautiful face, and what brand stays put all night.
Think of your red lipstick as your secret weapon, to stow away in every purse for any occasion. This classic look never goes out of style! And honey, neither do you.
Do you have beauty routines you swear by? Share them in Happy Grace Lounge. I wanna hear them, and so does the rest of our fabulous (and FREE) Facebook group!
Posted on June 03 2016
Let’s talk about the “morning person.”
You know the type. She wakes up with a smile, crossing a bunch of things off her to-do list before she even thinks about what she’ll get for lunch.
Actually, scratch that. She probably had lunch planned days ago.
That morning person.
Now, if you’re a night owl, you might shudder at the thought of being at the top of your game before 9am. You live for late nights and multiple coffee runs to get you through the day.
I’m not saying you’re a mess, or that you’re any less productive or successful than your average morning person.
However, in this 9-5 world many of us live in, being a night owl can work against you. You might wake up exhausted and sleepwalk through the morning when you could spend it being super productive.
If you wish you could change your ways, start enjoying the morning and seize the day, I have some good news. Becoming a morning person is pretty simple, and all comes down to building small but powerful habits.
It all started when I came across this article from Real Simple entitled 10 Tips for Becoming a Morning Person.
In the interest of keeping it even MORE simple, I broke it down into three small things you can do today to wake up more of a morning person tomorrow.
In general, try to shave an hour off your night and get to bed earlier. Practice saying “NO” and try not to overbook yourself so you can wind down more successfully.
Do your hair the night before. Whether it’s a braid for natural waves or a simple blowout, it will cut your morning routine down significantly so you feel less rushed.
Here’s the trick: always make sure your home does not have the same amount of light at 4pm as it does at 9pm. This means investing in some shades for your windows and soft lighting. It’s all about ambiance!
Morning people: do you have any of your own tricks for waking up with a smile? Share them with us.
Now, start building those habits!
Posted on May 31 2016
Tired of your work wardrobe? It happens. You wake up and look at your closet, only to be uninspired.
Ladies, that’s no way to start the day! Let your work clothes be your armor to get stuff done.
It’s time to shake things up with some serious career fashion inspiration. And where do we go when we need to create a virtual mood board? Pinterest of course!
I did some very important career fashion research and came across some outfits that you can wear when you need to get down to business.
Whether your job demands business formal, casual cool or something in between, I guarantee you’ll find something to inspire you.
Think Chic: Monochromatic. Classic with an edge.
Need versatility? A chic work look can take you from a day of lunch meetings to a night of networking events.
Think Casual: Jeans, flowy tops. Relaxed but fierce.
Sometimes you have to resist the urge to break out the yoga pants. Working from home or in a relaxed atmosphere can be fabulous, too!
Think Feminine: Full skirts and pops of color to brighten your day.
Dress like a man to be successful at work? I don’t think so. Embrace your girly side every once and awhile.
Think Business Formal: Structured dresses and simple accessories.
Business formal does not equal business boring. Embrace the word ‘formal’ and enjoy the excuse to dress up.
While these are certainly fashion forward options, it’s all about finding the armor that makes YOU feel the most powerful.
Whether you’re rocking comfy shoes or 5 inch heels, find the look that makes you excited to succeed.
Now, excuse me while I get back to pinning.
Posted on May 24 2016
The word no can often be misconstrued as negative, mean or downright disagreeable.
Let’s put an end to this way of thinking here and now, shall we?
If you feel like you’re being pulled in a million different directions and it’s stressing you out, I think I might have the solution. Stop saying yes to everything.
I know you want to be positive and flexible. Some of you might want to keep up that “easy breezy” vibe your friends have come to know and love. Others might be trying to do it all and be supermom.
Here’s the thing. Saying yes to everything might be making everybody else’s life easier… but what about YOU? You’re a big part of the equation here, after all.
While taking risks and embracing all life has to offer is key (and always encouraged by yours truly), some things just can not and should not be experienced. I’m talking about the things that derail you and generally make you feel like crap.
Think one-sided friendships, draining colleagues and unhealthy habits.
So, the next time that “friend” asks you for a favor; when a coworker tries to delegate unwelcome work or you’re presented with an opportunity to undo any kind of healthy progress... just stop. Breathe. Say NO.
Come on, ladies. Put yourself first for a change. Don’t you deserve to feel less stressed?
(Hint: the answer is yes.)
Here are three tips for sticking to your guns when these draining situations inevitably come your way.
- Don’t give an excuse. You don’t need a sob story for why you can’t add another thing to your to-do list. And definitely don’t make one up. Simply prioritizing your own energy, sanity and happiness is enough.
- Don’t bargain. You don’t need to trade your “no” with a “yes”. Remember: YOU are the boss of your time, no one else.
- Be firm but fair. Don’t take out past frustrations on the person asking for a favor. No is just a word, not the beginning of an argument! And, let’s be honest, you don’t need the added stress.
Here’s to the power of NO!
Posted on May 16 2016
You gotta love science, ladies. I sure do.
I just came across this BRILLIANT article that instantly made me feel lighter. I could feel the stress melt away as I read it.
What was the topic that was so powerful, you may ask?
Here’s the article, from the Huffington Post: The Science Behind Why Naming Our Feelings Makes Us Happier
Naming our feelings. So simple, yet so many of us don’t do it.
How many times have you felt “off” and couldn’t explain why? You know you’re not happy, and it’s taking its toll.
Those unnamed sour feelings have a habit of casting a dark cloud on your whole day.
According to this article, a scientifically proven way to get rid of this gross feeling is so much easier than we think. Just put a name to it!
“It’s often helpful to assign a ‘feeling word’ to the emotion you wish to express. Examples might include feeling: anxious, worried, happy, angry, confused, left out, frustrated, peaceful, determined, relieved, joyous, etc.”
When you’re feeling bad or have an inexplicable pit in your stomach you just can’t shake, you need to sit down and do some thinking.
Are you frustrated at with your friend for constantly putting you down? Are you angry with your significant other for taking you for granted?
I’m not saying the frustration or anger is going to magically disappear just because you named it. It will still be there, but now you know what to do next.
You’re choosing honesty. You’re choosing to take ownership of how you’re feeling instead of projecting, disassociating or taking your feelings out on others.
When you know exactly how you’re feeling and can put a name and face to the emotion, you are better equipped to figure out how to overcome it. Simple as that.
So, I just have one question for you… how are you feeling today?
Posted on May 10 2016
Have you heard the news? Strobing is the new contouring. I couldn’t be happier!
As you know, I’m all about beauty routines that highlight your inner glow. I’m talking about the healthy habits and techniques that don’t cover up my so-called “flaws” with pounds of makeup. The ones that make me feel fresh and enhance the features that make me, well… me.
Hey, I’ve got nothing to hide!
That’s why the new beauty trend that seemingly all my makeup inspiration are are rocking (Gigi Hadid, anyone?) is right up my alley, because it requires one simple product: highlighter!
Perfect, I know.
And, if I haven’t sold you on this technique already, here’s the best part: you can enhance that inner glow in just three simple steps.
Step one? Eyes! They say they’re the windows to the soul, after all.
Brighten those peepers by swiping your favorite brand of highlighter underneath your brows.
Next stop, cheekbones. This is where the art of strobing really shines.
Blend your highlighter above your blush for a smile that glows even brighter!
This final step takes seconds, and is officially my new secret weapon.
Subtly enhance your pout with a quick dab of highlighter in the crease above your upper lip.
You can use this technique on top of full-on glam for your next night out, or as a simple pick-me-up over a fresh moisturized face for a day of running errands.
Strobing: the perfect complement to your natural glow.
Posted on May 10 2016
You know I’m always on the lookout for “secrets” to happiness. I love finding different ways to feel happier and get some life balance, because let’s face it, there’s no secret formula.
Something that works for one person might not be another’s cup of tea. In the wise words of Amy Poehler: good for you, not for me.
Speaking of wise words, you know the saying “money can’t buy happiness?” I came across an article that might contradict this tried and true statement. Hear me out!
Of course, I love retail therapy as much as (or possibly more than) the next person, but I know that splurging on a new handbag or beauty products isn’t going to bring me lasting happiness. Everybody knows that, deep down.
But what about spending money on experiences?
I’m talking about family vacations that bring everyone together, even if it’s just for the weekend. A girls trip with your college friends spent reminiscing about old memories and making many new ones.
Sure, airfare and hotels can get pricey. But at the end of the day it’s a purchase that brings you laughs and memories on which you simply can’t put a price tag.
How’s that for a so-called “secret” to happiness?
So, ladies, my challenge for you is simple: if you score a nice bonus or find you have a little more disposable income than usual at the end of the month, resist the urge to blow it a material thing and plan a trip with the ones you love most.
Chances are, it’s overdue.
I can’t wait to see the pictures!
Posted on May 10 2016
Whether you’re climbing the corporate ladder or have reached your “dream job”, there’s always a chance you might find yourself in a work rut.
You know the feeling; you might not be waking up with dread every morning at the thought of going into the office, but you're not exactly thrilled either.
You're just kind of… Meh.
I think we often just accept this as part of life, but what if I told you that you could wake up next week feeling pumped to get out of bed and get to work?
If you've been in a bit of a work rut lately, then I have some remedies for you in the form of some seriously inspiring TED talks.
You know, those speeches you watch on YouTube that make you feel inspired to take on the world? Those TED talks.
I binge watched these and pulled my favorite bits of advice to help you rediscover the joy in your workday.
Let's see if any of these gems can work for you! I'm trying them myself this week.
Have a call this week? Take it on the go. Get out of the typical day-to-day. Changing your routine and surroundings can get the creative juices flowing and inspire you in new ways.
Don’t Limit What You Love
It's OK to have more than one passion. It's even OK to have three or four! Be energized by the fact that you can use your experience and knowledge to pivot in an entirely new direction. Is a new career path on the horizon.
Look at inspiration differently. Be inspired by your inner spirit instead of other things or people for a change. Find your creative genius and find new exciting ways to solve problems and kill it at work.
Do you have any proven methods for shaking things up and avoiding a work rut? Please, share with the class.
Here's to an inspiring work week!
Posted on April 05 2016
Sometimes, just looking at the color pink can put me in a better mood. I mean, just look at the design of my blog!
Do you feel that way about a certain color? Whether it’s sky blue or electric yellow, it’s time to surround yourself with some good vibes. What better place for a bright pop of color than your home sweet home?
I was in a home renovation mood this week after watching a little HGTV (guilty), so I found this beautiful bit of Pinterest inspiration: South Shore Decorating Blog: Color Me Happy (Pops of Coral Colored Cheer)
Here’s the challenge, Happy Gracers! It’s time to incorporate little pops of your favorite color throughout your home. Be inspired by the following, or use it as a checklist:
- Grab a brush and paint one piece of accent furniture. Bedside tables recommended.
- Invest in a soft, bright throw for the end of your bed.
- Make your sofa look like new with a colorful set of throw pillows.
- Go big or go home! Paint an accent wall.
- Add a vase of fresh flowers in your favorite hue.
- Buy new supplies! Notebooks, pencils and more in a fun, happy pattern.
- Create an oasis. Plan your plant design with your color in mind. Or, if the weather is right, head to the garden store right away!
- Rugs can go outside, too. Spruce up your patio with an indoor-outdoor rug.
Ladies, life is too short for all neutrals. I love a beautiful shade of grey as much as the next person, but you know what makes it even better? A gorgeous vase of pink peonies on my coffee table.
Here’s to a brighter and happier home!
Posted on April 05 2016
While browsing one of my favorite websites, The Everygirl, I found this little nugget of brilliance regarding networking. This article wasn’t the same old spiel about what to wear or how many business cards to have on hand. Nope, this was all about how to network when you’re an introvert.
If you’re an introvert, networking might seem like a nightmare. Full of small talk and socializing, you can often leave a networking event feeling drained and determined to never set foot at a “Small Business Happy Hour” ever again.
This can pose a problem. After all, you’ve got to network to get work. For many, attending these events and rubbing elbows with peers and leaders in your industry is a major part in advancing your career. The fact of the matter is, it often doesn’t matter how hard you work at the office if you don’t put yourself out there and make some meaningful career connections. Sigh.
That’s why this article is so brilliant. Introverts avoid any kind of interaction or conversation that is shallow or meaningless, favoring a smaller but closer network to collecting tons of acquaintances. Though it might seem counterintuitive, this can work to their advantage in the networking setting. Here are the main points I gathered to help all you Happy Gracers that fall on the more introverted side of the spectrum.
Relationships are Key
Quality over quantity. Before you attend a networking event, do your research and learn a little bit about what kind of professionals will be in attendance. Focus on making one quality connection instead of trying to work the entire room. You should look at these opportunities first and foremost as a way to build a relationship with someone who can provide guidance, support or career advancement.
Good Listeners Wanted
With a room full of people shoving business cards in your face, your listening skills can be a breath of fresh air to many movers and shakers. People love talking about themselves, so skip the small talk on your end and ask meaningful, open-ended questions. You’ll get more out of the conversation than their opinion on the weather!
Master the Art of the Exit
There’s no need to capture someone’s attention for the whole event. Make the connection, find valuable common ground and move on strategically. Ask them to continue your conversation over coffee next week. It’s a great way to keep it short and sweet while laying the foundation for a lasting professional relationship.
Posted on March 21 2016
Here’s a question: do you have time to be creative? It seems like the answer is too often “no”.
I mean, let’s face it. If you’re like me, you feel like you barely have time to wash your face every night with your favorite beauty products or cram breakfast into your mouth every morning, let alone time for being creative.
For some of you, this might seem fine. However, creativity is not reserved for those of us who love to write, draw, paint or create. Being creative can benefit your life in basically every area, from your job to your relationships and personal development goals. Living more creatively is both enjoyable and cathartic. So, to me, making time to be creative is a must for us all!
I found an article from Refinery29 that addresses this perfectly. They define creativity as, “the ability that we have as individuals... to create ourselves and to continually strive to be better.” Could living more creatively be a major factor in being the best versions of ourselves; to achieving that life balance we crave?
I have a challenge for you ladies: find out for yourself. How can you be more creative in a way that works for YOUR life?
Here’s to embracing your creative side. Just remember, I’m your biggest fan!
Hey gorgeous! I’m so glad you stopped by. Take a moment to soak up the goodness we’ve gathered. It’s all here to help you live the life of your dreams.